My topic today is Women and their toxic relationship behavior primarily with Men.
I haven’t included other gender scenarios here because honestly, they aren’t the ones that have these issues. You rarely see same sex couples using one another in the manner that Women and Men use each other in heterosexual relationships. You don’t see them bashing one another in meme’s or comic strip humor meant more to insult than entertain. It’s basically men and women, usually with kids, trying to define what their counterparts role should be in the relationship or in the child’s life.
I saw a viral post a few days ago where the female user shared this statement: “I need a real man who will take care of me and pay my bills”. Or to that affect. When you went to her page she was laughing about how the post had went viral and the reactions it was getting from others. To her, what she said was accurate and appropriate in the expectation that she should be taken care of financially.
As a woman and a mother, this is appalling and sickening. To think that any REAL woman would not only expect a man to support her financially and be happy with that relationship, but that she didn’t realize how disgusting it was, was terrifying. How many women out there have been domesticated to think this is appropriate? It’s baffling to me that these women exist.
Let’s get one thing straight, to whomever feels this is appropriate. It is NOT. You are not a real woman if:
You think anyone should pay your bills
If you think that you are entitled to gifts or material possessions just because you are a female and men are supposed to buy these things for you
If you ask for someone to buy you things
If you can’t support yourself and your children without the assistance of a man. A mother should always know that she is the provider for her children. She can house them, feed them, cloth them and support them financially as well as emotionally. Not her partner, not her parents not her friends.
If you quit one job without already having another position secured so that you and your children are taken care of.
If you aren’t giving just as much as you are getting from your relationship.
If you are taking advantage of someone in order to gain security as in monetary or material security. As well as relationship security. Some women seek men they know will be honest and loyal even though they have no real feelings for them, simply for the emotional security which is still being a USER!
If you are withholding love, affection or sex from your partner when you don’t get what you want or get your way. These are signs of an abusive controlled relationship not a healthy one.
If you think your partner owes you anything other than a healthy, trusting, loyal relationship that comes with respect.
If any of these apply to you then you are still mentally a LITTLE GIRL you are no where near ready for a relationship, let alone a kid or family. Stop poisoning Men with these toxic relationships and ruining them for the real women out there who will be good to them!
Don’t get me wrong. There are situations where couples sit down and determine that, for the benefit of the kids and family, it might be better if one or the other stay home with the children rather than work. This is in no way meant to be thrown into the same category as women who are expecting to be “kept up” and provided for. In these situations you will see the women primarily being the caregiver to the kids, taking care of household issues and keeping things in order. She is continuously responsible for appointments, organizing, facilitating, care of others, and in no way should a stay at home mom be seen as lesser value than a working partner. In most cases her job is just as taxing if not more as her responsibilities are more. It usually takes more stress off of the working partner for her to stay home and deal with issues that he/she cannot due to work schedule not to mention, avoid expensive childcare costs that basically come out more evenly if the kids are home. There are lots of benefits from having one partner stay home while the other is the bread winner.
Also, I know that being a single Mother is difficult. I’m not saying that Single Mom’s should feel less or unfit if they need help from others or groups. Being a good Mother doesn’t mean that you don’t need help! Please don’t misinterpret this post to in any way point at single Mom’s. This is meant for those women who use others in the ways I’m suggesting here.
BUT, you know I’m not talking about stay at home Moms or single Moms.. I’m talking about those women with that “I need a man to pay this or buy this” mentality. Women that get with their partner because they know they will be dependable and provide.
Men, these women are USERS. They do not care about you. They will not respect you and they will not be trustworthy. They are only out for themselves and you do not need them. There are so many women out there who will give you healthy, satisfying relationships that will not take you for granted. Please don’t waste your time on these petty little girls. That is time that you could have been spending building a meaningful life with someone who values you not hat you can give them.