What an offensive title right?
I find I’m offending myself by even insinuating that women are crazy. It’s as if I’m supporting that cliche’ statement Men make. Normally it’s made when trying to make themselves feel better while trying to cover up something they’ve horribly jacked up and their partner has lost her ever loving mind over it.
I’ve always supported women’s sometimes radical responses to hurt, insult, cheating, mind games, oppression, lying, disrespect or whatever other abuse men inflict on them, with the defense, “Women are crazy, when men make them crazy”.
That statement has been harder to defend as social media and interaction has progressed into the social media age, proving it more and more true. Females have gradually lost their minds somewhere between the 90’s and 2018. It’s pretty hard to defend that statement when you see countless posts from women today filled with drama, personal attacks, disgruntled rants and childish rages.
It is taking girls much longer to mature in this age due to the lack of real communication and resorting to social media to deal with issues and seek validation rather than working out their problems with the people they have conflict with. A 25 year old woman today can actually exhibit the mentality of a 15 year old in the way they handle conflict in relationships via social media. I’m not saying all you 25 year olds are childish 15 year old brats.. but I am saying, yeah, a lot of you are! And this isn’t limited to 25 and younger because I see women, well into their 40’s, sharing content that clearly lacks any discretion where personal relationships and issues go. This is even sadder, because, how are these young girls supposed to learn any class, if they are seeing older women trash talk every Tom, Dick and Harry publicly on the daily?
You can’t actually defend your maturity level if you are 19 or older and you’ve posted any of the following statements or similar in a negative manner on social media or if you’ve had similar interactions on social media:
- My Babies Daddy
- My Boyfriend/Significant other’s Babies Mama
- My Ex or current partner did this…
- I don’t like posting drama on social media but…
- (girls name or suggestion of girl without exposing name) in some form of attack
- Screenshot of private messages from others in an effort to hurt another or validate yourself
- I’m so tired of (anything that has to do with another person in your life)
- If you trash talk friends, family current love interests , peers, ex’s, rivals, etc.
- A real man ….
- You’ve been asked to remove something because it was hurting another person (by your venue or by another person)
If these statements sound familiar then you may want to look at getting counselling to help you learn to communicate with people on a real level and deal with conflict realistically in your life. You most definitely need to put away your cell phone for a period of time until you can reconnect (or connect) with society on a real level and work out your problems face to face.
Women can’t seriously defend when Men make the statement “women are crazy” if they are constantly acting crazy on social media. It’s a profound put off to the opposite sex or even the same sex, as no one wants to have a relationship with someone that lacks class, discretion and above all composure. After all, how can that woman be mentally healthy if she isn’t handling relationships or conflict in an unhealthy manner? And how can that person be trusted with your personal feelings and love if they publicly bash and smear others?
So, not only are you crazy, you are also tactless, immature, sad and untrustworthy.
A woman should never hold things in or let a harmful situation go unaddressed. It doesn’t matter if it is verbal, mental or physical, if there is a harmful or abusive situation in their lives it should never be kept secret because you are worried about how you will look. There are healthy ways to deal with serious issues as well.
But putting petty disagreements in the same category as abuse is equally as alarming. Regardless of the situation, it’s still probably not social media appropriate unless you are advocating a serious issue and spreading awareness. Please don’t put drama and personal conflict in the same category as abuse.
We all know that Men mess up. They hurt us. They do horrible things… some men, not all men!
We also know that friends sometimes turn out not to be such good friends after all.
We know as well that people can be petty and do things personally to hurt someone else just because.
We all have family that we have conflict with at some time because families don’t always get along all of the time.
And we all know that break ups, divorce, custody and other issues with ex’s are horrible to deal with.
That doesn’t mean that any of these are problems to drag out on facebook, twitter or instagram which only makes you look like the crazy person. Looking crazy isn’t the only downfall here. You also look vindictive, salty, negative, unappealing, unethical and very immoral no matter how much you try to paint the other person out as immoral you come out the loser because you couldn’t deal with it with maturity, composure and like a woman.
A real woman avoids drama, she knows her time is precious and she’s not wasting it on unimportant things.